The conversation about if and when to move a parent to an assisted living facility can change family dynamics and divide siblings. It can be even more difficult if there are step parents and/or step children involved. Some parents may be resistant to move even after their health and the condition of their home deteriorate. Parents may disagree that now’s the time, or just may not want to go. Some may no longer understand the issue. Many family members may have different opinions, too, and obviously, the emotions are elevated.
If this is your story, if you have a parent who’s increasingly fragile or in deteriorating health, if you’ve had this talk, if you’re thinking about it, feel free to call us: 1 509 453-1366. Maybe we can try to bridge the gap by sharing information on resources within the community whom specialize in art of family mediation.
PRIOR TO DROPPING BY
It’s time to be proactive in your loved one’s quality of life. We encourage you to visit several communities you’re interested in. Ponderosa Assisted Living is open seven days a week and able to accommodate busy schedules to meet with you whenever it’s convenient. Life in a senior living community is bustling, and there can be a lot to take in, especially if this is your first time visiting. Here are some things to be on the lookout for from arrival to the time you depart.
Invite friends or family to join you on an exciting journey to find a perfect place to call home. We encourage an individual actively involved in your decision-making to join you on your outing. It is always helpful to obtain another’s perspective when visiting communities. At times it can be over whelming and having another’s viewpoint will be helpful in making a decision.
First impression can speak volumes; how do you feel when stepping through the front door. Does it feel and sound like a house filled with family? Does a kind, happy individual greet you with a smile? Did community invite you to join them in a comfortable “discovery room”. Do they take the time to listen and discover your concerns, determine what is most important to you? If they take the time to build a relationship it expresses their sincerity in helping you.
Are you introduced to staff and residents during your tour? At the very least, is the person showing you around should recognizing everyone along the way.
If your loved one joins you on the tour, does the community staff person address and talk directly to them? Even though it may be a family member making the final decision, pay close attention they communicate and treat your loved one with respect.
Experiencing an amenity can give you a glance of how your loved one would enjoy life at the community. Did they invite you to join them for a complimentary meal or oppose it to connect with an activity during your visit. Being provided an opportunity to live a “Life with purpose” is essential and experiencing in a community’s activity program is an appropriate gesture. Do they offer a variety of nutritious choices with senior-friendly options, such as sugar-free desserts, low-sodium entrees, and comfort foods?
When finishing the tour, you should once again sit down in the “discovery room” to have an opportunity to ask any questions not addressed during the tour. Brochures, activity calendars and monthly newsletter are resources that can assist you in making an informed decision.
You should never feel pressured to pre- pay a deposit or sign a contract. Keep in mind touring a community doesn’t obligate you to move in.